Couples Therapy NYC
Dr. J. Ryan Fuller conducts couples therapy in weekly sessions with clients struggling with relationship problems and those looking to improve their relationships beyond what is adequate.
Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) and standard Behavioral Couples Therapy are used along with acceptance strategies. Initially a thorough assessment is conducted to recognize both the strengths and weaknesses of the relationship along with the particular behavioral patterns and skill deficits that need to be addressed to improve the couples’ overall relationship satisfaction.
Couples Therapy Provides Tools
Concrete tools and exercises are used in session as well as practiced between sessions. Couples learn to prevent emotional episodes where regretful behaviors occur, how to better manage emotional episodes when they do occur, how to communicate effectively and respectfully even when an agreement or resolution may not be possible, how to actively problem solve and negotiate, how to accept aspects of each other’s behavior that may not change, how to determine what one is willing to accept, and how to acknowledge, appreciate, and encourage more of the behaviors and aspects in the relationship that bring joy, passion, and connection.
Romantic relationships present complex patterns of behaviors, values, feelings, and cognitions. They can also be the most important support an individual can have when the relationship is healthy. There are effective couples therapies that have scientific support.
The goal of couples therapy is not to keep people in a relationship no matter what. Rather couples therapy will identify what changes can be made, maximize those changes, develop acceptance of what is not to be changed, and determine if the result is a satisfying relationship for both parties. If the work does not result in both members being significantly satisfied in the relationship, then we utilize skills to respectfully end the relationship in a manner that takes all parties into account, including children, etc.